Sunday, February 21, 2010

The good, the bad, and the hideous

I am so behind on blogging. I was going to post about Christmas, but that can wait since there's a lot on my mind lately. We'll start with the good.

Good:

My decorating project is coming along nicely. I gave up on the bedroom for a while since nobody sees it anyway, and I've moved on to the upstairs family room and the living room. I bought some nice, cheap accessories from Ross that I really like. I did a little organizing and rearranging of the shelf in the family room and added a few new accessories and it looks much better. We have big plans for the living room that we plan on starting this week. It gives me something to get excited about.

I love watching the Olympics. There are always inspiring stories and I love cheering for the good ol' US of A. I've been staying up too late every night watching, but I love it.

We went on our annual La Verkin trip with Tyler's family last weekend. The weather was awesome (60s most of the time)! We did a little hiking, made fondue, played games, watched the Olympics, and went swimming. I enjoyed shopping in St. George, visiting a good friend, and napping on Sunday. Tyler and the guys had a chicken nugget-eating contest at McDonald's since they're having a deal on them this month. They bought 150 nuggets and they were all eaten! The girls ate a few, but the vast majority were consumed by the men. In fact, Tyler ate exactly 1/3 of those. He had a goal to eat 50 since the deal was 50 for $10. He killed the competition, with the next closest eating 32. It absolutely disgusts me! They're not even good. Anyway, it was nice to get away and enjoy some nice weather.

Kate is good most of the time. She is a bright light in my life. She is so sweet and just keeps getting cuter as she learns more stuff. She continues to amaze me with her knowledge and her vocabulary. She constantly says things like, "There she is!", "I wanna dip it.", "Oh no!", "I want Daddy.", "Don't!", and "Here." She has the cutest inflections in her voice when she talks. She knows the names of all of her aunts, uncles, and cousins. She loves music. She sings "I know you" from Sleeping Beauty and the beginning of The Hello Song from nursery. It's adorable. She loves to give hugs and be held. She makes me happy.

Ada is one funny girl. Here are a few gems she's come up with lately:
-She was pretending to marry her friend Ashton and was dancing on the coffee table. She exclaimed, "It's my Christmas wedding transformation."
-In La Verkin, we always stay at an old house owned by Tyler's grandparents. As we were getting ready to leave, Ada hurt herself and asked for a Band-Aid. Tyler found a box of plain ones in the bathroom. When he gave her the Band-Aid, she said, "This is ugly, just like everything else in that house."
-Today she was sitting on the toilet, and after a few minutes she yelled, "Mommy, why do the other animals want to dress the owl up like Prince Phillip?" Talk about random!
-She is obsessed with her baby cousin Brynlee. She talks about her all the time and loves playing with her. She told me she wants me to have a baby girl and name her either Sleeping Beauty or Brynlee.
-She gets mad quite often and says some pretty funny things. A few examples are, "I don't like princesses!", "I don't like any of the clubhouse friends! I don't like Minnie; I don't like Daisy. They're not nice; they don't share!", "I don't like Kate! I don't ever want to see her again!" (I'm afraid this may not be the only time in her life she says this one.), "I don't like anything! I don't want to go anywhere!" Oh, that girl...

Now to the bad:

Ada also falls in this category. I am having some serious struggles with this girl. I'm afraid I'm doing everything wrong, but I don't know what to do. She is back to throwing regular tantrums, and they come at the most random times. When this happens, it's impossible to reason with her. It you're trying to get ready to go somewhere, you can forget about it. I'm working really hard on staying firm so that she doesn't get rewarded for throwing a tantrum, but she is really stubborn and it is hard. I'm afraid I lose patience and yell too often. She talks back and tries to say the same things to me that I say to her. Sometimes it's funny, other times not so much. She won't stay in time-out and has lately resorted to hitting. I get so frustrated and just don't know what to do. I feel so bad about it. On the bright side, her anger sessions don't last as long as they used to.

Finally, the hideous:

We left for La Verkin last Thursday evening around 7:00. It's about a four hour drive, so the girls slept most of the way there. Kate woke up around 11:00 p.m. when we got there, and boy was she wide awake. We kept her up for a while and then tried to put her down. It was in vain. We couldn't let her cry because there were people sleeping in the room next to ours. She wouldn't sleep in bed with us. She'd let me hold her for a while, but then wanted to run around. I played with her for a while upstairs and gave her some food, but that didn't help much. I was so done and at 2:30 put Tyler in charge of her. She doesn't like him to hold her at night, so she wasn't happy about that. He took her for a drive in the car and she fell asleep, but woke up when they got back. He tried to put her in her bed, but that didn't work and she just wanted me. So I got to hold her for the last remaining hours of the night and she did sleep in bed with me. It was one of the worst nights of my life (the other two happened in La Verkin when Ada was a baby). I was brought to tears and told Tyler we're never going back down there. We'll see about that. Thankfully, she went down fine and slept well the remaining nights of the trip.

In Ada's naughtiness, she has started wetting the bed. It has already happened four times this week. Some of the blame obviously lies on us, but this is getting ridiculous. She is at the moment sleeping in her own pee, and it happened less than an hour after we put on clean sheets. She was out of control before bed, was shut in her room, and she got in bed and went to sleep. After a while, Tyler went in to put a diaper on her (she hasn't worn Pull-Ups at night in months) and he was too late. I tried to change her clothes, but I only succeeded in taking off her undies. It was a lost cause. She's gotten to the point where she won't even tell us until morning. We always try to limit her liquids at night and make her go potty before bed, but she has been fighting us at bedtime, and when she gets mad she refuses to go potty and get her teeth brushed. She gets so out of control that we can't do anything with her. I can force her toothbrush in her mouth to brush her teeth, but I can't force her to pee in the toilet. I always feel like I'm walking on eggshells with Ada. I hope this soon passes.

6 comments:

Rachelle said...

Kate was so cute last night! I can't believe that she know's everyone's names. We need to commiserate together about Shelby and Ada. We are going through something similar with tantrums/hitting and I feel like I am doing everything wrong too. Let me know if you have a breakthrough!

Sabrina said...

I am so sorry Ada continues to be difficult. I am sure that strong personality will serve her well in the future, but it's of little consolation now. I hope you can figure out something that works. Also, sorry to hear about the nasty night in La Verkin. I have had a handful of those with both kids. It's horrible and is my biggest deterrent for wanting to have many more kids.

I am glad to hear your decorating projects are going well. You should post some pics, an HGTV before and after type thing.

Katey said...

I hope this doesn't seem totally strange. But I knew Tyler growning up and check in on your blog to see your cute girls =)

Anyways, about Ada, my 5 year old is a Type A personality, as well. Very independent and I think the temper comes with it! The only thing that worked with her is '1-2-3 magic'. They have workshops around the state but there is also a book you can read. It really does work. And it explains why it works for this personality. I highly recommend it. She is 5 1/2 now and is she my angel child. Your not doing anything wrong, she is just really strong! Which is good =) Better that than a push-over. Good luck!

Amber said...

I want to see some pictures of your decorating projects! Good luck with Ada, hang in there...

Bel said...

Oh mama I so sorry Ada is acting up. Bri has been horrific these last couple of weeks as well. Everyone keeps telling me 3 are worst so here we are. Bri has to fight me on EVERYTHING everyday. I also feel like I am walking on eggshells because she will get upset for any reason she will scream and hit me. Time out is hard with her as well I even tried to lock her in the car for timeout in the garage so she would not wake up the baby and now she hates the car and says it's scary. So it didn't work it just traumatized her, haha! I am running out of ideas as well... Man being a mom is hard stuff!!!

Kirsten said...

I totally know that feeling of walking on eggshells around a child. I just cross my fingers and hope I get it right, or else...

I'm sure it will pass. And just remind yourself that your skills can't be any more limited than mine. I found myself yelling at Atticus today and I just barely caught myself before I told him to stop picking on me. Who's the adult again?